Emotional hypersensitivity…
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- Understand your inner workings.
- Filter your perceptions better.
- Reduce the associated anxiety.
- Raise your tolerance thresholds.
- Manage your energy and emotions on a daily basis.
- Develop more self-care habits and resilience.
- Transform those limitations into strengths!!
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What is neurodivergence emotional Hypersensitivity
Being hypersensitive means being in a state of constant attunement and synchronization with your environment. It is capturing, observing and feeling almost everything that is going on; tangible or subtle, factual or emotional. The nature of what you pick up, even if it doesn’t belong to you, will have an important impact on how you feel; mood, stress, fatigue, etc.
Unstable Environment and Hypervigilance
During childhood, the child’s first basic need is having a safe environment. It helps him develop self-confidence. However, in a difficult family environment with emotionally unstable parents, this need may be left unfulfilled. The child may then become constantly alert to the slightest mood changes in people around him. This then causes hypervigilance, bringing continuous tension to the nervous system.
Highjacking Empathy and Difficulty to Self-Sooth
A tense nervous system requires appeasement. For the child, being comforted when he needs it is crucial to his development. This helps to nurture his own ability to self-regulate his emotions and develop his empathy. However, in the absence of benevolent and comforting models, it may be difficult to develop those capacities. Also, the child’s natural empathy can be diverted to care for the unstable adults. In other words, his empathy is highjacked as roles are being reversed; placing on the child an emotional burden for which he doesn’t have the maturity to handle. This predisposes him to prioritize the needs of others before his own, including being comforted! Of course, this makes emotions stronger than they should, which exacerbates the already tensed nervous system.
All of these are factors that can lead to anxiety; often very present in hypersensitive people, and which tends to continue in adulthood. Lack of self-empathy can make managing emotions difficult and reduce the person’s comfort zone.
Great Empathy, ADHD and Neurodivergence
What do these three characteristics have in common? Information processing and its impact on the nervous system! In general, these involve different emotional or sensory shortcomings that can overwhelm these emotional sponges, thus generating hypersensitivity. In all cases, the preferred approach often consists in reducing stressors and nurturing the person’s self-soothing habilities.
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Hypersensitive children certainly need more attention to thrive. However, we must refrain from overprotecting them! Instead, we can accompany them in expanding their comfort zone and understanding themselves better!
On that note, feeling misunderstood is frequently encountered in hypersensitive young people… And which unfortunately may extend in adulthood. This can have a significant impact on self-confidence and social interactions.
Learning to Reparent Yourself
For hypersensitive adults, it is important to develop ways to appease the nervous system to reduce anxiety. A good way to do this is reparenting! In other words, to become your own parent! It’s about reconnecting with your inner child and relearn to give yourself the things you didn’t get from your parents. This may involve a personal journey that requires coaching and accompaniement. Because yes, it is possible to maintain your empathetic abilities without them being a burden!
The Different Expressions:
Emotional
To intensely feel emotions, sometimes to the point of loosing control of them.
Extra-sensory (energetical)
The body emmits electromagnetic frequencies constantly. Therefore, it is possible, for those sensitive or attentive enough, to pick up on or absorb those kinds of information; others’ emotions, moods, intentions, tensions, etc. For children, this type of hypersensitivity can easily become a source of anxiety!
Immediate (very common among children)
To have immediate, often physical, reactions when an emotion is felt. For example; having a tummy ache when feeling anxious.
Retarded or displaced
Having feelings that stretch over time, which can bring back memories that make us re-experience past emotions or traumas. (Increases susceptibility to depression).
Sensory (touch)
Sensations on the skin that are often difficult to bear or tolerate.
Olfactory (smells)
Increased sensitivity to smells; which are often associated with memories or emotions.
Auditory (noises)
Increased discomfort to certain sounds and noises. Difficulty with rapid or extreme acoustic variations.
Electrosensitivity
Accute sensitivity to electromagnetic fields. This can cause an array of ailments; headaches, vertigos, paliptations, brain fog, skin problems, intense fatigue, etc.
Common Difficulties:
Hypersensitivity and feeling vulnerable often go hand in hand. This may heighten vigilance and reinforce the need for protection… translating itself into different self-limiting behaviors:
- Needing solitude and isolation.
- Avoiding attention and wanting to become invisible.
- Fear of speaking in groups and standing up for yourself.
- Difficulty recognizing and expressing your own needs.
- Taking on other’s well-being on your shoulders.
- Having to continiously project the image of a strong person!!
- Melancholy caused by a lack of authenticity and fear of being your true self.
- Fatigue and lack of energy… because all of these behaviors eat away at your inner resources!
Why does anxiety get in the mixde l’hypersensibilité émotionnelle
We could sum up anxiety as a constant negative anticipation of life situations. This is caused by a persistant physiological reaction to stress, combined with a fertile imagination. It then provokes a nervous system overload; which can have dire physical, mental and emotional impacts.
Our emotional reactions are managed by the cerebral amygdala, whose role is to filter what we perceive into two categories: pleasant and safe or unpleasant and threathening. When we perceive a threath, the amygdala reacts in 3 different ways: fight, flight, or freeze.
Usually, the physiological stress response (cortisol, adrenaline) dissipates when the threath dissapears; a process that greately imply our eyes.
Unfortunately, the many informations perceived by the various forms of hypersensitivity are invisible to the eye and tend to stimulate the imagination more. Therefore, fighting or fleeing an invisible threath becomes impossible and tiresome for the brain! At some point, the only reaction left is “freeze”… thus creating a sense of powerlessness!
And so, while this powerlessness continues to be felt inside, the physiological stress response can never truly settle down. In the long run, this can bring on chronic stress, or even anxiety.
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